I Was Too Easy for a Boy I Had a Crush On.

When It’s Hard to Play Hard to Get — Read This!

Did you ever feel like you were just too easy for a boy you had a crush on? Was it downright cringeworthy? Of course, it is; in my mind, I always question myself —

Why did I ever do that? Why did I let this boy live in so much space in my mind? Where was my dignity?

Am I really into him? Or am I just in love with the idea of him? Was I craving attention? But why his attention? What about him made me so willing to be that girl — the one who made it all too easy?

Was it me? Am I just too easy? Or was it how I was raised? Did my parents somehow set me up for this?

Let’s be honest — this was never about him. It was about me. About my need for validation, my need to feel seen, wanted, and chosen. When it happens, throwing all logic out the window is easy. Often, I focus on who is treating me that way, not how I’m being treated.

How someone treats me doesn’t define my worth. My response to attention (or lack thereof) doesn’t make me too easy or desperate. It means I am human; having sugar rushes in a way that isn’t the healthiest.

It’s tempting to fall into this trap of self-blame, but it’s rarely that simple. We’re young and inexperienced. We genuinely seek validation and misinterpret attention as more meaningful than it is.

The overanalyzing of every text, every glance, every interaction. Changing your behavior, interests, and friends to fit his. So focused on pleasing him that you lose sight of yourself. And that’s where the too-easy feeling creeps in.

The too-easy moments can be painful, but it wasn’t wrong to want to be wanted. It wasn’t weak to hope someone liked you back. However, it gives too much power to someone who doesn’t deserve it.

So, how do we avoid the too-easy trap? Loving yourself means setting boundaries to demonstrate your value, time, energy, and emotional well-being — not because you’re playing hard to get, but because you know you’re worth getting in the first place.

Be kind to yourself, especially when you make mistakes. Everyone does. Treat yourself with the same understanding and forgiveness you would offer a friend. When you care for yourself, you send a message that you’re worthy of care.

You are so much more than anyone’s fleeting attention. Earning self-respect is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, and celebrate your progress along the way.

If you’re sitting there, cringing at the past, know — you’re not alone. And trust me, that boy? He probably wasn’t even all that great.